About speaking truth:

Some of this came from Ram Dass's teachings - mainly - "Be willing to speak the truth, if you know it will not hurt another. " That's how I arrived at the following code I have for myself:

If I am to speak truth about how I feel then I require that I ask myself the following before preceding:

1. Will what I say cause hurt to me and/or them?

2. Is what I will say going to lend to healing for me and/or for them.

3. If I decide to move forward in saying my truth when I know it will or may cause suffering I ask myself if there's a way I can state my truth without accusation or taking full responsibility for my feelings without blaming them?

If I can answer all four of these questions so that I can effectively communicate taking responsibility for my feelings and surmising the possible outcomes while being okay with that then I will move forward regarding my truth. Or in other words if I am willing to survive the consequences of saying my truth, owning my feelings while alienating loved ones and exposing them to suffering then truth saying may be okay. Or it may not be necessary.

When I first began healing from trauma I wanted to speak truth to all the hurts I had suffered.