Good writing.
Is culture - especially woke culture in its rush to to fix everything demanding we make the world safe from acting-out anger?
Is there something wrong with being uncomfortable? This was a question that a teacher once posed to our class (in a spiritually oriented school).
People who try to shame others with phrases like: "Your making me uncomfortable" besides giving their power away have a desire to make everything "nice".
It seems that your acting-out anger is about your grief. Yes?