I delight in the differences between us and I love your story. Your way of thinking is fascinating and fill with wonder.
After reading your story I know I must be from a different planet than you.
Before I embraced and surrendered into developing an objective, compassionate, neutral witness within - emotional time speed stays the same except when I was in my 20s and into my mid 30s. Then your number 2 aphorism was right for me.
I've always known who I am (even though I thought at the time that I had no idea who I was) so I was never sucked into an environment.
I relish that I attract what I don't want because it teaches me what my dislikes have to teach me. I bless them. Dislike - at least 50% of the time becomes neutral for me. Some friends I have had let go of that are low self-esteem that they try to include me in their dysfunction. And they don't get what I'm about.