Thanks for the story and the resource.

My father was also a bully, but had periods of kindness not directed towards me - but a kind of dormancy. My mother was highly critical and intrusive, violating emotional and physical space.

Other relatives sexually abused me. I survived the SA/incest by developing a dissociative disorder.

I had an excellent therapist for 10 myears and a 46 year spiritual practice which has helped (is helping tremendously).

I'm nearly 70 and am still working on it. Many days are good.