The Merrimack-Webster Dictionary defines should as an obligation or a duty that

“History and Etymology

Middle English sholde, from Old English sceolde owed, was obliged to, ought to”

It would appear that the word “Should” is based on belief. Anything owed, is an obligation or a duty comes from a motivation that does not originate with us, so it comes from some outside authority. When we “throw-in” with the outside authority a belief or beliefs form. Since belief is a name we throw at a number of beliefs that are mostly likely un-examined and if they are examined are most often contradictory in nature.

What a mouthful of a preamble!

So instead of “should-ing on myself” I apply a technique of being and doing that may have originated in the 1100s — though I’m guessing. But it did come from Sufism. Coincidentally the Method Acting Technique by Stanislavski is very similar:

In no particular order -

• Where am I?
• Who am I (right now)?
• What do I want?
• Where am I going?
• How am I going to get there?

Consider replacing “should” with:

• Could
• Can
• Want
• Will

Soon “should” will be banished to the hell of guilt, shame, and the obligations of the Blue Soldiers indebted to the Wicked Witch of “The Wizard of Oz” forever singing “Owe-Ee-Owe, Oh-Oh-Owe”.

Side note: Maybe the Wicked Witch’s soldiers/guard were blue because they were sad, or holding their breath or both. When Dorothy throws the bucket of water on the Wicked Witch she melts. Water is a symbol of emotion, throwing the water is a symbol of unattached emotion — flowing. The Wicked Witch is green (with envy) craving and coveting what others have and is stuck. This is related how we stick ourselves in the past to others’ authority with the tyranny of the should.