"Why me? Why does this always happen to me? What have I done to deserve this pain? It’s so unfair? Why me, again?!

Why me? What is this here to teach me? What can I gain from this and learn from it?"

Why me? or Why "anything "- are what seems to be "intellectual-trap" questions that focus on problems instead of solutions.

The second "Why me?" questions are What questions mainly that have a neutral inquisitive feel to them.

Being present with what is. Grieving, Gratitude, Forgiveness, use of the neutral compassionate observer within to see.

There is strenght in fragility and vulernability, yes